10 Bands? 50 Bands? 100 Bands? Ah fuck it man! So unlike Drake, KG and I are going to discuss these bands. Is there an acceptable dollar amount for someone to spend on an engagement ring? Find out what we think about.
So I was having a conversation of mine that went a little something like this:
Friend: So I was on vacation just browsing in the store and I decided to go try on some rings (You know this is smart since you just started dating a dude 2 months ago). The lady let me try on one that was only $8000.
Friend: Yes only. I always thought $10K was a standard for a ring
Me: You are a damn idiot.
Friend: What do you mean? I think with everything I have been through with guys, $10K isn’t that much.
Me: Ok let me say this again. You are an idiot. And you might want to go buy a cat.
Am I tripping? 10 stacks for a piece of jewelry?? Listen Linda…No. Outside of the fact that we know the engagement ring industry is a sham DeBeers created, who in their right mind needs a $10K ring? That’s right no one. If I am dumb enough to spend that much on a rock, I am probably not the man you want to marry.
Now before you just immediately say “K you are just a cheap ass Negro” just hear me out. A woman demanding a man buy an expensive engagement ring, is most likely telling her man to throw away a significant amount of what will most likely become their income on an item that value is largely symbolic. So if I was lucky enough to have $10K sitting around when I was preparing to marry you, why would I blow it all on one item that doesn’t even show that I am married to you (Remember you still have to go buy the wedding ring)? I get it that you want something nice to wear on your ring to be a symbol of you love, but what is the cap? Can you spend $2-4K on something that looks nice but doesn’t burn your pockets?
I guess I am lucky enough to have married a woman who didn’t care too much about the amount or size of the ring. I respect all of y’all men and women who find worth in this here purchase, but just remember that the geology doesn’t actually proclaim anything about your love.
Does size matter? YES! Size matters wether you are talking about wallets, dicks, tits, or diamonds! SIZE MATTERS! LOL!
Man! How many times have I had the conversation with friends involving screenshots and the question "Would you say yes if he proposed with this?" HOW MANY TIMES LORD! It comes up a lot in conversation! It is a hot topic with black twitter too!
Now I will be the first to admit, I love big, pretty, shiny, sparkly things! However, I am realistic. I have never been the girl looking on the Tiffany or Tacori website for engagement rings. Yet I will admire when I see Facebook friends who post amazingly gorgeous rings and I will also make a face when I see Facebook friends share rings that, how do I say this, don't fit my taste. Y'all can be honest too and admit you've screen shotted a ring and talked about it with your friends!
What opened my eyes to the cost of engagement rings was going shopping with KG a few years ago. WHAT AN EYE OPENER! I had no idea what $5,000 could buy or could not buy. A study from Emory University looked at 3,000 American adults; the study made a suggestion that men who spent $2,000 to $4,000 on engagement rings were 1.3 times more likely to see their marriages end than those who spent $500 to $2,000. HMMMMM!
The increased factor might come from the financial hardship that now exist from a man who overextended himself trying to purchase an expensive ring. Now if you have $10,000 or more to blow and want to buy a pricey engagement ring then by all means do it!
In my case is it important to me to have a big bling? No. Would I turn down big bling if that is what I was proposed with? NO! Honestly, save the money on the ring, let's skip a wedding, and let's grab those passports and go somewhere amazingly fab!
But hey that's just me!